What’s the secret to finding the right mentor at work and at home?
I get asked the question all the time, “How do you find the right mentor?”
But before you can find the right mentor, there’s a crucial step you don’t want to skip…
Finding a Mentor Starts with You
There’s a saying —when the student is ready, the mentor will appear. It’s so true.
Raise your hand and honestly, and genuinely answer the question…Am I ready to be mentored?
You need to look yourself in the mirror and have a conversation with yourself, asking important questions like…”Am I ready to be mentored?”, “Am I ready to be coached?”, and “Am I ready to learn?”.
Learn the Relationship Equation
It’s the know-like-trust equation. Many people want to find the perfect person.
They’ll find someone that’s on a stage speaking or someone they see in their community and say, “if I could just have that person as a mentor, everything in my life would change”.
I have to tell you that in my own experience, you first have to spend a little time and be sure that you know that person to be sure that you really know who you’re asking to be your mentor.
Do you align, do you have similar character traits and values.
The second piece of the equation is, do you like them?
Many people that got their dream mentor say yes to their mentor only to find out they don’t really like each other.
Trust is Key
To have a great mentorship relationship, you have to spend time with each other, get to know each other, and you’ll need to like each other.
It’s important to know enough about them to know that they can add value to your life.
You need to like them and like spending time with them.
Lastly, and most importantly is you have to trust them.
A good teacher takes you on a journey and you go on this journey sometimes with blind faith to do what they tell you to do and to do it right away.
If you don’t have that trust, if you don’t trust them blindly to do whatever they say and do it right away, then they’re not going to be a good mentor.
It all comes down to the know-like-trust equation that I encourage everybody to use when finding the right leader.
If you do that, then you’ll definitely be on the path to having an excellent mentor-mentee relationship.
Are you interested in achieving professional success without sacrificing personal fulfillment?